It’s very unfortunate that this is an issue.
With that being said, it’s quite disheartening to read an opinion post by Amy Glass (I have no idea who she is) entitled “I Look Down On Young Women With Husbands And Kids And I’m Not Sorry“. In short, Glass says that women who get married and have kids stay “inside the box” by doing so and have no time or energy to do any “real work”, therefore doing nothing of any merit. She is asserting that anyone can get married, anyone can have kids, and doing these things are very average and prevent a woman from being exceptional. I respect the fact that everyone has an opinion, but why shame others and put them down because the way THEY live is not YOUR choice? So these people are less adequate, less accomplished, and can’t be exceptional people? It’s very sad to know that we have such shallow people on this earth.
Glass is a self-proclaimed feminist, who looks down on other women for their own life choices. That doesn’t add up. Don’t you just love closed minded people who generalize an entire group of people? Read her article, then read my response…
As someone who has both been a married stay at home mom, and now a working mom, I can speak to this with knowledge of both sides. I am married with two children. I currently have two jobs, one being a career that I love, a college degree, and a great social life with awesome friends. I have met and interviewed many celebrities, and have traveled many parts of the world. NONE of this compares to the life of a stay at home mom. I went back to work for financial reasons, and i’d jump at the chance to be a SAHM again. And i’d still work the career that I enjoy, still travel the world, and make a difference. I do agree that it is a demanding life choice, but it is definitely the most rewarding. It is very clear that you have no idea what it takes to be a mom, at that, a stay at home mom, yet you’re able to reduce these women as just “average”. Do you call yourself above average, or below? [don't ask me what I'd call her]
You sure have a lot to say about this for someone who has never been in the situation at hand. You “look down” on hundreds of thousand of women for choosing to take care of their families and households instead of backpacking through Asia, getting a promotion, or landing a dream job. And how do you know that the mom who chooses to stay at home and spend the short years she has with her children is not her dream job? You have no problem degrading a group of women who aren’t, according to you, doing anything for themselves because their life milestones do not line up with yours. It’s so easy to get married and have a kid, right? Tell that to the millions of divorced couples who couldn’t make it work, infertile couples who have been looking to conceive a child for years, and those who dream of this life every day.
Amy Glass, and all of you other judgmental people, stop generalizing young stay at home moms into one, mundane, unaccomplished category. I know plenty and there is a chance that they might be far more accomplished than you. If you think that we’re being applauded for doing ‘nothing’, and that being a wife, mother and running a household is not work, you have much to learn. I welcome you to jump off of your high horse, join the rest of our society, and take these comments into consideration:
- Your validation as a successful person in society is just that: YOUR validation. It seems as though you expect this of others as well, and if they are not following suit, their lives must be mundane and worthless.
- How could anyone live a fulfilling life as a stay at home mother? Consider the fact that people can be happy and feel accomplished by doing things that YOU don’t agree with.
- Men (all of the ones I know) do believe that managing a household is important. Why do you think they provide and contribute to their household in different ways? Working. Mowing the lawn. Home repairs. Finances. And most of all, being the bread winner. Let’s be realistic… no matter how hard things might be for a man, this is just not something that they talk about.
- Housework vs. Real Work… you sound quite naive. This comparison is pretty bad, one must understand that housework a very small fraction of a stay at home moms job. You classify ‘real work’ as that of a doctor or engineer. Who raised those people, Amy?
- Everyone is different. There’s no way around it. Have an opinion, but keep it at that. How would you feel if all of the mothers on this planet judged you for not having a husband and children of your own? Judging people for their life choices doesn’t do anything for you. Let people do what they want and choose what works for them, and shut up about it!
So don’t look down on us stay at home moms. We’re just raising the next generation of humans while simultaneously living our own lives, no biggie. Worry about yourself.